Truly is a Small World

So now it is time to meet some family for the first time. All these meetings happened over a couple months time. This posting is on meeting one of my nieces from my Dad's first family. My oldest sister Gale, died in a terrible car accident when she was only 20 years old (I would have only been 3). She had 3 girls all under the age of 4. It was a terrible accident. As the story goes, my mother was to have been out with her that night. Thankfully she was not.

Now to put a twist on this... my niece Patty (one of Gale's girls) had seen me writing my name and number down for her and says, "That was my step-mom's last name, not sure if it was spelled the same but that is what it was before she married Dad." I say, "What was her first name?" "Rose," she says. I was like, "Interesting, that is what my father-in-law's one sister's name was I do believe." She said she'd check when she got home on the spelling. She then calls me not 10 minutes after she got home and reads Rose's obituary to me. I was like, "oh my God, that is her!" I come home and tell my mother-in-law that Henry's sister, Rose, married my deceased sister's widower!! Then I tell her that my niece was really nice and tell her name - and she about choked on her drink. She says, "I bowl on the league with her husband - for years!" So now Patty calls me Aunt Dawn and my mother-in-law Aunt MaryLou. I still shake my head at all this. My husband's aunt raised my nieces. Now of course, my husband's Dad never grew up with his siblings and that is why we did not discover this any sooner, but it truly is such a small world we live in...

My sister, Gale married Ron and they had 3 daughters together.

My sister's widower, two years later, marries my husband's Aunt and raised my three nieces.

Gale's girls shortly after her untimely death.

The Men of The Stones

I now have photos of their stones but who are these men? Family yes, but who are they really. Because I started my research into my paternal family too late, I missed meeting my Uncles by only a few years! I should never have waited so long. So I turn to my Dad's first family and ask my siblings if they have military info and photos to add to my project. I managed to gather some information and photos but not really the whole package I was hoping for. Since my in-law's sister lived on the same street as Uncle Harry did, I asked her if she knew of the family then. Yes! She got me in touch with a cousin and I set a day to meet. I also turn to the keyboard. Start googling names and such. I came across my Uncle Harry's photo on the Library and Archives Canada site under the Faces of War. I was thrilled for such a great photo of him while serving our country. I would be happy to bring this to my cousin, Randy during our meeting. For now, the following are photos of the men who represent the stones I took at the cemetery....

Uncle Harry (from Faces of War)

Uncle Charlie (and wife Cora)

Uncle Robert (Bob)

I will one day find a photo of Grandpa!

What Got Me Searching

I never grew up with my paternal family and once I started doing my family tree, I wanted to know more than the little bits I already knew. My father lived out West after he and mother separated. Each had a 'first' family before myself and my brother came along. So we have many 'half' siblings. I know them all but grew up with my mom's first 3 children. I don't call any of them 'half' siblings, cause family is the most important thing, and the more I have the better I am for it. 

So I had download a free family tree program from the internet and start inputting all I know. Time consuming but enjoyable seeing how it all comes together. Then I viewed it and noticed how lopsided it really was. I knew my Dad's parents' names but never knew them. So off to the public library I go. I pull the obituaries for both and then head to the cemetery to pay my respect - and introduce myself! 

Well, proudly I can say Grandpa, and 4 of his 5 sons served. His other son was our city's fire chief. I can boast here :)  But sadly I never had the chance to meet one of them. I waited too long. I decided to take my son with me to help search at the cemetery. As we walked through the gates to the Soldier's Field - not a clue where they are in there - the name Parker was right there on the back of a big black stone. We found Uncle Bob. His stone even had a photo. Then Robert says, 'There is your Uncle Harry' just over there. I walked over and looked at the inscription and said, 'No, that isn't our Harry cause he just died in 1999 and this Harry died in 1941. Must be another Parker family, or maybe another family member.' So we walk around and not far off was Grandpa. William H. Parker. As I stood there and read his military information, I started to wonder what he did in the war and what he looked like. I was wishing there was a photo on his stone too. I'll have to ask my siblings on Dad's side if they have photos and such. I stood there awhile - not knowing exactly what I was feeling but somehow felt overcame with great curiosity. We then walked around a bit more and found our Uncle Harry and Uncle Charlie. There in that field, lay my Grandfather and 3 of his sons. My father who was also in the war, lays in rest in BC. As I walked back out through the gates, I felt such a sense of pride but at the same time I felt something drawing me back in. There was something - I just didn't know what at the time.The following are photos I took that day of each of the stones we came across...

Soldier's Field, Maple Leaf Cemetery, Chatham, Ontario

Robert "Bob" Parker / SA0947 / April 26, 1929 to Aug 9, 2002 / Paratrooper Princess Patricia's Canadian Light Infantry / Korea 1950-53	I took this photo as well in case it ended up being a relative and saved it on my computer as 'maybe family.' Corporal Harry Parker 10th Battn C.E.F. / 16th March 1941
William H. Parker / DR. / 1892-1944 / R.H. & R.F.A. / B.E.F. France / 1914-1918	Footstone
Harry Parker / PTE. Kent Regiment / 1919-1999	Charles H. Parker / Cook / RCNVR / 1926-2005

Robert "Bob" Parker / SA0947 / April 26, 1929 to Aug 9, 2002 / Paratrooper Princess Patricia's Canadian Light Infantry / Korea 1950-53

I took this photo as well in case it ended up being a relative and saved it on my computer as 'maybe family.' Corporal Harry Parker 10th Battn C.E.F. / 16th March 1941

William H. Parker / DR. / 1892-1944 / R.H. & R.F.A. / B.E.F. France / 1914-1918

Footstone

Harry Parker / PTE. Kent Regiment / 1919-1999

Charles H. Parker / Cook / RCNVR / 1926-2005

Introduction Blog

I will be adding pieces of my journey through the research process and what has been uncovered regarding my paternal Grandfather and his family who came from the Union Workhouses of Sheffield. I met an amazing forum user online that I consider selfless for the amount of time and effort he has invested in helping me unravel my intriguing Parker family. Sadly I will likely never sit and have coffee with him - or give him a huge thank-you hug - because without his help, I could not have resolved so many mysteries. I consider him one of my best friends now. 

From the bottom of my heart, thank-you Andy!